Why I am not changing my last name?

I mean really why am I not changing my last name.. My name is 8 letters long.. and not some easy to spell last name either... like Matthews ( yes those are 8 letters long, I counted ;) )... When people ask for my last name I have to go ... B as in Boy... A as in Apple ( Just as an example, not really my last name)... My husband (YAY I KNOW NOW HUSBAND.. we got married 4 weeks ago, but that is a different story) is 4 letters common short name...... Sigh Why I am not changing my last name , in order of importance: 1. I don't want to deal with the paperworks and I am not talking about just American paperworks.. but also Indonesian paperworks and my 7 years visa / paperworks in US bearing my maiden name and reporting to Indonesian government etc etc.. 2. Most Indonesian women don't change their last names. My mom didn't. They still go with Mrs. Husband's last name in social context but you don't need to legally change your last name to be Mrs. Husband's last name, although A wants to be technically correct and does not want us to be annouced by Mr. and Mrs. his last name That's it two valid reasons for me.. I dont think hubby is 100% with me (maybe 80%) ... but I am sticking with it.. I have friends who will only change their last name to husband's last name when they have kids.. interesting takes... What do you guys think? Are you changing/ not changing your last names?

A typical western wedding gown in Indonesian party

How do they walk in this thing?? How do they dance or move around? How do you even bustle this thing?? You probably don't bustle it at all.. mm... interesting :) What do you guys think about a long train for the dress

BHLDN cute dress

How awesome is this BHLDN new dress... shop it here it's $2400 though.. ouch

I'm not looking for an after party dress anymore.. we've decided not to do an after party.. eventhough our wedding ends at 10.. i think it's smart...

mismatched bridesmaid dresses

My purple dress was designed by my Maid of Honour who will be designing my Indonesian traditional dress and my mom's dress for the wedding in LA. yay... i'm doing a mismatched bridesmaid dresses too...

How about you guys? are you doing mismatched bm dress?

Save the Date :: Zach & Chelsea

This is sooo cute.. Mallory Berry will do a stop motion video for you.. wth.. i totally would just ask her to do it instead of trying to figure it out myself.. the site states pricing starts from $100..

would you pay for this service?

[Korea's Got Talent] tvN 코리아 갓 탤런트 Ep.1 Sung-bong Choi!!!.avi

awww.... ok not wedding related but more susan boyle like for korea

I feel so unromantic

My girl friend is dating boys... and telling me stories about the boys.. (I'm still waiting for my girl friend to start a blog about her dating life because gosh there's a lot of crazy things going on there)... Anyway I digress, so she'll be telling me things like:
1. This boy I met created a facebook page, and he said he did it for me because he never had a fb profile before

My reaction: what???? Are you sure he's not just creating a fake fb profile to share with you since he has some stuff he wants to hide??

2. This boy I met wants me to meet him in this other city for a weekend...

My recation: what???? don't go he just wants to hook up.. tell him to come to your city

Really I'm an unromantic person... and not a trusting person either ...

Fellow bloggers, please help me...

Per Manda Mack's kind comment on my previous post where I'm complaining about being in a wedding rut, I'm turning to you guys for help...

Let's start with my wedding theme: casual, elegant, intimate.
Guest count: 150 to 175
Venue: Art Museum at the lawn, so outdoor. Reception and Ceremony at the same place (see picture of the lawn on top, that's the venue)
Details done:
1. Lanterns over the dance floor
2. String lights over the rest of the area
3. Circle ceremony inspired by picture above
4. Serving lemonade, ice tea, water for cocktail hours


What I can't figure out:
1. How do I bring in my Indonesian culture into this without being too much/ cheesy? Thinking of having an Indonesian dessert bar, next to my cake.
Have bought Indonesian puppet male and female, not sure where to put it (see image)
I bought this batik cloth (See image on top where the groom uses a black and white indonesian batik as this what do you call it - handkerchief on the pocket?). Should I create a bunting flags to put over the last row of chair behind ceremony? Or maybe put it behind my bride and groom chairs? Should i follow this and put it on the groom's handkerchief and on the bride's bouquet?

2. Very concerned about the whole feel of the wedding, the event design specifically. I only have talked to the forist for now. Should I be starting DIY projects too? AAHHH... See I'm like all over the place I dont know what to doo... help

Also want to direct you guys to SMP which just posted this wedding in Bali incorporating some of the indonesian culture...

wedding details rut

i dont like details.. really i dont..... UGH

i dont know what to do about all these wedding details

i feel like im in a wedding planning rut

i want to get a wedding planner to do this for me... but they're expensive (or not responding to my emails)

:(

cake topper

soo cute... do you think will and kate want one? see here

preston bailey

in java..

sooo cuteee.. (cake)

what to do with my day of coordinator?

still haven't decided on what to do on the Day of Coordinator front. There's a planner that I've been following that I'd like to work with but ... 1. she's very expensive 2. she's not replying to my email (6 days..)

HMPFFFF.............................. :(

Day of Coordinator update

My DOC just quit from the company.... so the owner of the company emailed me and said that she will get another planner up to speed on my event...

UGH!!!!!

That's why my DOC has not been responsive on my emails...........

stil UUGHHH..

What should I do?

Funny Wedding RSVP

too funny...

Up Inspired wedding in Indonesia

Found this wedding featured on Green Wedding Shoes. Gotta say Axioo is a really good photography company from Indonesia and good for them to be featured on US wedding sites..... I mean seriously the wedding in Indonesia is something else, with guests lists around 1000+, the propensity to showcase something/make a point of one family's worth in the society, backed with some serious style and amazing vendors and not to forget the willingness to spend up to 6 digits USD per wedding.... who does not love an indonesian wedding (disclaimer: not all indonesian weddings are like this)

Ok and can we do a shout out on this cake and invitation below.....!!!

Kate Middleton Inspired Dress for sale soon?

Would you be interested to get one? Apparently Kleinfield is working on recreating the dress for the mass market.. see here

The cost of the Royal wedding vs our wedding..

from here

Stop Motion Video

how cool is this

Stay at home Dad, anyone?

Image from Google search, not mine :)

Ok so a friend of mine sent me this article that says 1 in 15 dads are stay at home dad now.... Wow..... Really?

A couple paragraphs from this article below:


By HOPE YEN, Associated Press – 2 hrs 9 mins ago
WASHINGTON – For the first time, American women have passed men in gaining advanced college degrees as well as bachelor's degrees, part of a trend that is helping redefine who goes off to work and who stays home with the kids.
Census figures released Tuesday highlight the latest education milestone for women, who began to exceed men in college enrollment in the early 1980s. The findings come amid record shares of women in the workplace and a steady decline in stay-at-home mothers.
The educational gains for women are giving them greater access to a wider range of jobs, contributing to a shift of traditional gender roles at home and work. Based on one demographer's estimate, the number of stay-at-home dads who are the primary caregivers for their children reached nearly 2 million last year, or one in 15 fathers. The official census tally was 154,000, based on a narrower definition that excludes those working part-time or looking for jobs.
"The gaps we're seeing in bachelor's and advanced degrees mean that women will be better protected against the next recession," said Mark Perry, an economics professor at the University of Michigan-Flint who is a visiting scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, a conservative think tank.
"Men now might be the ones more likely to be staying home, doing the more traditional child rearing," he said.

continue reading here.

Given that I'm the only girl among my siblings and my two brothers are not going to a grad school while I did... hey maybe it's true...